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It’s Official-Get Ready to Ignite the Light!

Ready to Ignite the Light?

Hi everyone!

I can’t believe how fast time flies but my new book is being released in exactly ONE week!!! (But you can PRE-ORDER TODAY)

IGNITE THE LIGHT: EMPOWERING CHILDREN & ADULTS TO BE THEIR ABSOLUTE BEST

Whether you are a parent, a teacher, a child-care worker, or just a person who would like to leave this world a little more peaceful than you found it, Ignite the Light – Empowering Children and Adults to Be Their Absolute Best, will give you the tools to educate, enlighten, and empower the children in your life to see that they are perfect just as they are.  What happens in childhood doesn’t stay in childhood, which is why childhood is too precious to ignore.  This book is a practical step-by-step manual for change and message of hope that provides tools from which all children—and all families—will benefit.

Check out the book trailer that was filmed and produced by an 11 year old who shines brighter than the SUN-(how cool is that?)

CLICK HERE FOR BOOK TRAILER

I am on a mission to help children and families be their absolute best by igniting the light within.

In this book, I take the 7 Essentials that I have taught for years to both children and adults and give you a step by step manual to apply to your life and empower the children you serve (whether you are a parent or teacher, you know exactly what I mean by that).

There’s nothing cerebral about it. I keep it simple because I want you to pick up this book, devour the message and apply simple principles immediately so that you can not only be your best self, but more important–ignite the light within our kids!

Top 5 Reasons to Order Ignite the Light today:

1) You will learn 7 simple essentials that can chance your life by helping you to create strong foundations for children and repair and strengthen your own foundation.
2) Your kids deserve a strong foundation that will help them to navigate the waters of life by connecting with their inner power.
3) You deserve a chance to get off the hamster wheel and start living instead of existing.
4) There are tons of tools to help kids believe in themselves and speak their truth, and when this happens our kids excel at school, laugh at bullies and shine brighter than the sun!
5) When we believe in ourselves and speak our truth, we not only create a brighter future for our kids but we live a happier life!

How about some gifts?

Because you have followed my work and are on my super important email list, I want to give you a few free gifts for ordering my book;

1) an automatic download of a typical meditation in my classroom. This is approximately 12 minutes long and can be used with both children and adults, even if you think you have a hard time meditating! I have 1st graders who use this method and believe me it works. Let me teach you how to go to YOUR ‘Happy Place.’

2) I will include you in a free 90 minute group coaching call based on the 7 essentials in the book(Date in June to be announced.)

How do you get the free gifts?

Simply purchase the book from amazon (click the link below), then send your receipt to zohee@vickisavini.com with “I’m Ready to Ignite the Light” in the subject line and you will receive an email with your immediate download and more information on the coaching call.

Lots of Love & Tons of Light,
Vicki

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Honoring the Light Within with Mindfulness

Wow, I just had an amazing conversation with my 8 year and I’m truly honored to be his mom.

This evening he came home from baseball practice and seemed a bit emotional. He said he got hit by a ball, but I knew in my heart it was more than that.

When we laid down to talk before bed I went with my gut (as I always tell parents to do because we know what’s going on with our kids more than we’d like to admit).

This is my sons first year in little league and it can be somewhat intimidating to try something new when others have been at it for a while. I turned to him and began to say those very words. As I talked he began to cry.

I stopped talking and opened my ears to listen to him intently. Sure, he may have been feeling a bit unnerved by this ‘new’ sport but it was more than that. What was bothering him most was that other kids were being mean to the ‘little kid’ on the team…

He started off by telling me that some kids were telling him what he was doing wrong and it hurt his feelings. It was then that I reminded him that if we are not part of the solution, we are part of the problem. He asked, “How am I part of the problem mom. They were putting me down?” I answered, “Yes, hunnie, that’s true, but you allowed it to affect you. You are part of the solution when you stand up for yourself and help others to stop and think about their own actions. You might have done that by saying, ‘thanks for the tip but I’m going to listen to the coach,’ ‘last I checked you weren’t a coach,’ or ‘wow, when did the Yankees draft you?” He liked that last one.

I thought we were through the woods but then he got really upset and began to sob uncontrollably. I reached out to him and asked what was wrong. He sadly replied, “Mommy, I was mean too. Some of the kids were making fun of the ‘little kid’ on the team and I agreed with them that he was small. I didn’t like the way it felt inside but I wanted them to like me. Mom, I was part of the problem!

I smiled a bit and wiped his cheeks and said, “Yes hunnie you were part of the problem, but right now you are turning it around to become part of the solution.”

Many children (and adults-who are we kidding) never take the time to be mindful–present in the moment–and think about their thoughts, actions and feelings and my 8 year old was doing that on his own!

We then read my children’s book for the upteen-millionth time, The Light Inside of Me and hugged tightly at the end.

be the light - person

We all have a light deep within us that shines brightly when we come from a place of love and are living our truth and dims when we allow fear to take the helm. In short, when we feel good, we shine and when we feel bad, we are dim or we dim the lights of others.

The next time you see a dim light, be present in the moment. Be totally mindful of what you are thinking and feeling and then instead of reacting, respond with love.

I am so proud of my son this evening (and every other minute of his existence). Tonight and every night I feel honored to be his mom.

Lots of Love & Tons of Light,

Vicki

Empowering Praise

Have you ever stopped to think about how your childhood affects you?  Childhood is the ground level in this life.  It is our foundation.  We simply cannot say, ‘What happens in childhood stays in childhood,’ because the truth of the matter is, it doesn’t stay anywhere.  Our childhood is our base for this life that we lead, and without a strong foundation, we struggle to navigate the waters of life.  The good news is… it’s never too late to create a strong foundation for your children or yourself!

I am the youngest of four girls and there are 11, 14 and 15 years from me to my big sister’s, so as a child I got a great deal of attention.  I was a dancer, a singer, an artist, and yes, a writer, even at a young age.  I won art contests, had amazing opportunities in dance, was recognized as a soloist at state competitions, and was honored for my writing.  I was usually praised for what I was doing according to what others thought…

“You’re a good artist Vicki,”

“That was a great song,”

“Good job on your dance.”

I worked hard to be the best, but I wasn’t always the best.  When I wasn’t the best, of course I felt less than.

My parents were loving, hard working people, who taught us to be kind, generous, and always help those in need.  They were truly amazing and always tried to do their very best with their children, as we all do in our own way. They never intended to pass on this feeling of unworthiness to me.  They were truly oblivious to this core belief being born within me at a young age.

No-one set out to give me this core belief as a child, yet the message was clear, “Be the best, or it’s just not good enough.”

We don’t even realize what we do to our kids because we are dealing with our own core beliefs as we parent our children.

I’ve worked with children for over 20 years in my life and I have an amazing tool for you today…

When your child tries their hardest, overcomes a fear, tries something new, or even wins an art contest, before you tell them what you think, take the time to ask them what they think.  I often praise my son for doing and being, but I am constantly reminding myself of this lesson and asking him to tell me how he feels so that he will know how amazing he is whether he is 1st, 2nd, 3rd or 5,983rd!

Empowering praise is praise that we give to our children and ourselves, where we take a step back and say, “Wow! You did your personal best, and good for you!” Empowering praise is praise we give to our children and ourselves even when we feel like we’ve failed.  We take a deep breath and say, “That was my best at that time, I will prevail.”

Give your children a gift and give yourself a gift…

See the Light within no matter what the outcome is on your next endeavor!

Lots of Love & tons of Light,

Vicki

Life Starts When YOU Begin to Live

Three years ago on Thanksgiving morning, I received a chilling call that has changed the course of my life and my overall outlook…

On Wednesday, November 25, 2009, I went to bed with a smile upon my face because I realized that I was finally going to write the ‘book inside of me.’  I couldn’t wait to share this news with my parents, especially my dad who was always my biggest fan, the next morning because we were going to visit them for Thanksgiving.

On Thursday, November 26, 2009, I woke from a frightening dream at 4 am in the morning.  I can still remember it like it was yesterday…

In my dream, I was in a dismal cemetery.  It was drizzling, and my sisters and I were standing in a semi-circle starring down at a casket in a hole in the ground.  We were all dressed in black and I immediately assumed that it must be a sign that my mom was sick again, because she has battled cancer for many years.  In the next moment I looked up from the casket and standing directly across from me, also dressed in black, was my mom.  It was at that point in the dream that I realized that this was not about my mom, but rather my dad.  I then woke in a panic as my heart raced with fear.

Ironically, I turned to my left and noticed my 4 year old standing there starring at me.  I thought it was odd that he was there at 4 am, so I asked, “Nico, what’s wrong hunnie?”  He quickly responded with, “Mommy, I had a really bad dream.”  I gently hugged him and swaddled him into me and then asked him to tell me about his dream so that we could release it and go back to sleep like we normally do when he has a bad dream.  Unfortunately, he looked directly into my eyes and said, “Mama, I can’t tell you about this one.”  It was then that my fears were confirmed and I knew that this terrible dream was not only a dream but a sign that I needed to brace myself for.

Sure enough, at 7 am on that memorable Thanksgiving day, the phone call rolled in.  The call where I learned that my dad was admitted to the hospital the night before with an extremely high white cell count.

I went to my dad’s bedside and spent the next few days with him.  I talked to him, comforted him, did energy work on him, sang to him, and loved him.

The week-end prior to this nightmare, I was at a Hay House I Can Do It Conference in Tampa, FL having a revelation that there was a Hay House book in me. There were many inspiring instances that had occurred during these memorable days, but I distinctly remember a phrase by Dr. Wayne Dyer sticking in my mind…”Don’t Die With Your Music Left In You.”

I took this to mean something for my dad and so as I held him,  sang to him and supported him, I whispered that phrase into his ear, feeling like maybe he still had some music left in him…

Unfortunately, as I held my dad, a few moments after whispering that phrase and singing “Over the Rainbow” to him, I watched him take his last few breaths on this earth…It was Sunday, November 29, 2009 and my life was forever changed.

It took me several weeks to realize that that phrase that was stuck in my mind was NOT for my dad.  Instead, it was my dad’s way of continuing to inspire me.  Once I became aware of this I stopped saying, “Someday,” and I started living today, every day, in the moment.  You see, I suddenly realized that life is just too damn short to waste on fear and worry and I began to LIVE life instead of existing through life.  Within 6 months from that time, I published my first children’s book.  A book that had sat behind my desk for several years.  Now, almost 3 years later I am about to present a LIVE online event with Hay House…go figure!

This is all because I got a HUGE shock in my life and realized that life is here for us to LIVE and not to just exist through.

I believe that there are two forces that drive us in life…Love & fear.  Three years ago, I felt that I was being totally driven by fear and I knew something had to change.  For much of my life I was driven by fear.  Worry was never far behind me and I spent most of my days thinking ‘toxically’.

My Dad was an amazing man who always saw the sunshine in the darkness, but he too had a great deal of worry in his life, and that worry finally got to him in the form of cancer and took him before any of us had the chance to process what just happened.  Losing my dad made me see that I wanted to live life freely and let go of depression and that terrible feeling of unworthiness, so I made a vow to myself that 75-80% of the time I would only allow positive thoughts and I would become a positive person!

First, I broke this down by days of the week.  For example; Since there are 7 days in a week, I was only allowed to have 1 3/4 days that felt like ‘bad days’.  That still felt like too much, so I then broke it down to hours in a day.  I am awake approximately 15-16 hours a day, so 20-25% of that day is about 4 hours.  I therefore would only allow myself to be in a ‘bad mood’ for approximately 4 hours in a day.  That started to feel like too much too and I began to get very choosy about what I would let bother me and what I would worry about.

When the negative thoughts or feelings would creep in, I simply asked myself, “Is this worth my 20-25%?”  Prior to making this vow to myself, I would get upset about the smallest mishaps in life.  Maybe the traffic was too heavy or my favorite outfit wasn’t clean…that would send me into a tizzy!  I also was very hard on myself and never saw my own beautiful light.

Once I started this new practice, I suddenly had room to love myself, to listen to the voice within and above all to LIVE life to the fullest!

There’s no coincidence that I was at a Hay House I Can Do It conference the week-end before my dad left this earth.  There is no coincidence that Dr. Dyer’s phrase, “Don’t Die With Your Music Left In You” stuck in my brain.  There is also no coincidence that I am now presenting a LIVE online Hay House event!

Life starts when YOU begin living.  Stop existing and Start Living!

Lots of LOVE and tons of LIGHT,

Vicki

Sign up for my free LIVE online event happening on June 26th by clicking this link… Ignite the Light: Creating Strong Foundations for Children & Adults

The Hats That We Wear

Wake up in the morning… put the Mommy hat on (my personal favorite), interchange with the Wifey hat, as needed.  Drive to work… put the Teacher hat on.  Throughout the day, put the Nurse, Therapist, Clinician, Friend, Pseudo- Mom, Advocate & Healer hat on.  Drive home… Mommy & Wifey hat, Chef hat (not my favorite), and Storyteller hat.  After my son goes to bed, I put on my Business hat, Web Designer hat, Technology Student hat, and the one I really LOVE… my Writer’s hat (that one has lots of fun energy in it)!  And so, you get it…

We wear lots of hats!

Now, here’s the deal… Wearing lots of hats is NOT a bad thing.  The truth of the matter is, that as a parent, a professional, or well, a human being, we have many different aspects of ourselves to cover in a day and in a life!

We make connections to others with these hats that we wear. Wearing several different hats is not the problem.  The problem, is trying to wear too many different hats at one time, and just going through the motions.   When you do this, you quickly become resentful, depressed, and discouraged.

As you read my list of hats above (and that’s not ALL of them), you could quickly see that I’m a busy lady.  I’m usually up late at night and I rise early, but I am mindful that I am a human being, and not a human doing.

What do I mean by that?  There are lots of things we do in a day that we could classify as wearing a hat, but who we are while we’re doing them, is what makes all of the difference.

When I feel overwhelmed it isn’t the hat’s fault.  Instead, it’s my own fault for not placing The ‘Taking Care of Me‘ hat on first!

Let’s face it, whether you are a woman or a man, you wear a lot of hats.  My question to you is…

Who are you in those hats?

A funny thing happened a few days ago…

My son and I were walking out of the market and he saw one of those crane machines with stuffed animals jammed inside.  Of course, he asked for 50 cents to play the game.  I was hesitant because I know how those games are and I didn’t want to see him disappointed, but he persisted and I gave in.  He put the coins in the machine and talked out his calculations about how he was going to grab this stuffed animal.  I held my breath as the crane dropped and then rose again with no stuffed animal to drop in the bucket.  To my surprise, my son was disappointed, but he shook it off quite easily.  We held hands and walked through the parking lot.  My son suddenly blurts out, “Ohhhh I get it now!”  I looked at him and asked what it was that he was now getting.  He responded, “I get why I didn’t grab the stuffed animal.”  “Oh, really?” I inquired.  His response, “Mom, I wasn’t one with the crane.  You have to BE the crane!”  I chuckled as we got into our vehicle, but he had given me a pretty HUGE message.  Huh, be the crane…

Sometimes, you just have to do what you have to do until you get to the point when you can do what you really want to do.  The most important aspect to focus on here is not what you are doing at the moment.  Instead, focus on who you are while wearing any of your hats.  Be who you truly are, no matter what hat you have on, and you will find that no matter how many hats you wear on top of your head, you can still feel good and shine your light!

Here are some simple steps to remember when you wear lots of hats:

1) Always put your, ‘Taking Care of Me‘ hat on FIRST.

2) Focus on one hat at a time, and give all of your attention to that one hat during that time.

3) Be the hat!  If you have your Mommy or Daddy hat on, then just BE Mommy or Daddy in that moment.  If you have your Boss hat on, then just BE the Boss.

Sure, the hats are going to interchange quite quickly sometimes, but focus on being YOU in those hats, one at a time!

Lots of Love to YOU and all of your hats!

Vicki

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‘The Greatest Love’

So, today, I feel totally, extremely blessed.  I feel that way, because for the first time in my life, on Valentine’s Day, nonetheless, I finally can say that I LOVE myself!

On September 11, 2011, I had one of the most ah-mazing experiences of my entire life.  Not only did I have the privilege of being called on stage in NYC at the Hay House Movers & Shakers Speak, Write, Promote Event to share my message, but more importantly, I felt that during my speech, everyone in the room was truly connected.  You see, in the middle of this 5-7 minute speech, I just broke out in song…that’s right, you heard me correctly, I broke out in song!

I started to sing, “I believe the children are our future.  Teach them well, and let them lead the way.  Show them all the beauty they possess inside.  Give them a sense of pride, to make it easier.  Let the children’s laughter, remind us how we used to be…

I’m sure you know that familiar song well…”The Greatest Love of All,” sang beautifully, none other than, by Whitney Houston in her prime.  I began singing this song because Spirit moved me to do so.  I was speaking of my purpose here on Earth…the preservation of childhood, and so it fit perfectly.

The most beautiful part of this whole experience was not that I was able to go on stage during this event and share my message with hundreds of people, including the beloved Louise Hay, amazing Cheryl Richardson, and truly inspiring publisher of Hay House, Reid Tracy…Instead, the most beautiful part of this whole experience was that when I began to sing that song, everyone, and I mean EVERYONE in the room joined in to sing it with me.  In that moment, we were all ONE, all connected at the very core of our being.  It was perfect, and beautiful, and truly Ah-mazing!

Today, on February 14, 2011, I feel very honored to have had that experience, and even more inspired to share my message with the world.  I believe that their are 7 Core Essentials to building strong foundations for our children, which ultimately lead to being the best possible version of yourself in adulthood.  The first of those is LOVING YOURSELF.

I know it sounds cliche’, but in truth it is the answer to all of the cracks in our very own foundation of life.  How about this Valentine’s day, you step out of your comfort zone of looking for love from others and you take the time to find your TRUE reflection.

You are absolutely beautiful.  You ARE Source energy.  You are AH-MAZING!  Take a deeper look in that MIRROR and see that you are all that you ever searched for…go ahead…Love yourself!

Here’s a tool to try this week to get started on this beautiful journey to the Greatest Love of AllLoving Yourself  (I will send another tip after you’ve practiced this for at least 1 week, so make sure you follow this blog so you won’t miss out)

Speak kindly to yourself.

1)   Start your day, every day, with a positive affirmation just for you.  As you lay in your cozy bed, (even just for the first 5 seconds of those waking moments) close your eyes, and think to yourself…I am motivated.  I am worthy.  I am beautiful.  I am ah-mazing!  It doesn’t really matter if you believe it at first…’fake it til ya make it!’

2)   After you stretch and get ready to start your day, before you hop into that shower, stop and look in the MIRROR, then say those same affirmations as you look deep into your very own eyes. (I know it can be hard to do your first time, but my 1st graders do mirror work, so trust me, you can too!)  It’s just you, Source energy and the mirror, and I promise IT will  move you!

3)   As your day rolls on and the voices build, breathe in and say those same affirmations again and again.  Shield yourself from the negative thoughts and immerse yourself in Love.  If you’ve ever loved someone or something, I mean really loved, then you know that the first thing you did was speak kindly.  Falling in Love with yourself means starting at square one…speak words of kindness, and only words of kindness.  If at some point, you find that words of self- doubt, despair, or the good ‘ol beating up of the self creep up on you, just breathe in again and repeat your kind words.  It’s just practice, but practice does make perfect…and the Truth is, you’re already perfect, you just might not know it yet!

Sending you lots of Love (and the courage to Love yourself),

Vicki


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Embrace the Ride

Life is a Roller Coaster, ya know?

Hello everyone!  So, I’ve been thinking, a lot lately,  perhaps too much, about the RoLLeR CoASteR of life.  We all feel it.  We have ups and downs in our emotions, our energy, and our overall experiences.  No matter who you are, how much money you have, or how successful you are in life, you still feel the ups and downs.  One day it seems like everything’s coming up roses, the next may feel like you are trudging through a pile of mud, and you are just plain

S-T-U-C-K!

For years, I have asked myself, “Self, how can I just coast through life without the downs?” You know, be balanced, and Buddah-like!  Truth is, I’ve learned that without those downs, you don’t really appreciate the ups, and honestly, the roller coaster ride would be quite boring if it was all one level…So, what to do?

No-one really likes the downs

We don’t really look forward to the low energy spurts in our lives.  We don’t normally say, “Come on Universe, bring on the fear.”  However, it still creeps in.  I remember riding roller coasters at theme parks when I was a kid (and oh yes, occasionally, I’ll do that now as an adult), and I would hold on so tight that I thought my little arms were going to break!  I was so afraid that I was going to fall out if I didn’t white knuckle the bar.  I would get off the roller coaster all stiff and sore because I was bracing myself for disaster…pure fear.  As I got older, and more confident in trusting the Universe, I started to go with it’ and allow myself to just enjoy the ride.  Sure, I was still a bit un-nerved by the HUGE drop that was coming up, but instead of white knuckling the bar, I simply held on gently and prepared my mind for what was coming (or what I thought was coming-LOL), which helped to release the fear.

Interestingly enough, as an adult, I sometimes find myself white knuckling the bar in front of me on life’s roller coaster,  instead of just allowing myself to ‘go with it’.  I might question decisions that I make, wonder if I’m doing the right thing, or the worst, ask HOW to get from here to there!

The Beautiful Lesson

You’re most likely going to experience ups and downs in life, because that’s just how it goes.  It’s how we learn.  It’s the Yin and Yan of life.  You must have darkness in order to appreciate the light, and so on, and so on.  Yet, the downs don’t feel so good, and no-one really likes the downs.  So, here’s a TOOL to try…

When you’re feeling up, ask yourself, “What is it that brought me here?”  Really take the time to understand what got you to this point.  Was it your perspective?  Perhaps, a different routine?  What did you do or say in the days or weeks that led you to this up, so to speak.

When you are feeling down, ask yourself, “What is it that led me to this point? and what is it that I am missing?”  You see, we experience ups and downs for a reason.  Don’t be a hater, instead, be a lover!  Love the ups and the downs in life, and know that when you’re feeling down, all you need is a shift in your perspective!

Here are 5 Things to Do When You’re Feeling Down

  1. Crank up some music and sing to the top of your lungs, or dance ’til your exhausted.
  2. Read something inspirational (hint…hint…like this blog or a really good Hay House book).
  3. Take out the Play Doh (that’s right, I said Play Doh) and just allow yourself to BE in the moment.
  4. Connect with someone who inspires you or  makes you laugh.
  5. Immerse yourself in LOVE…snuggle with a pet, listen to your child’s laughter, or look into the MIRROR and say, “I Love you.  I really, truly Love you, no matter what!

Lots of Love & Lots of Light,

Vicki

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