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Honoring the Light Within with Mindfulness

Wow, I just had an amazing conversation with my 8 year and I’m truly honored to be his mom.

This evening he came home from baseball practice and seemed a bit emotional. He said he got hit by a ball, but I knew in my heart it was more than that.

When we laid down to talk before bed I went with my gut (as I always tell parents to do because we know what’s going on with our kids more than we’d like to admit).

This is my sons first year in little league and it can be somewhat intimidating to try something new when others have been at it for a while. I turned to him and began to say those very words. As I talked he began to cry.

I stopped talking and opened my ears to listen to him intently. Sure, he may have been feeling a bit unnerved by this ‘new’ sport but it was more than that. What was bothering him most was that other kids were being mean to the ‘little kid’ on the team…

He started off by telling me that some kids were telling him what he was doing wrong and it hurt his feelings. It was then that I reminded him that if we are not part of the solution, we are part of the problem. He asked, “How am I part of the problem mom. They were putting me down?” I answered, “Yes, hunnie, that’s true, but you allowed it to affect you. You are part of the solution when you stand up for yourself and help others to stop and think about their own actions. You might have done that by saying, ‘thanks for the tip but I’m going to listen to the coach,’ ‘last I checked you weren’t a coach,’ or ‘wow, when did the Yankees draft you?” He liked that last one.

I thought we were through the woods but then he got really upset and began to sob uncontrollably. I reached out to him and asked what was wrong. He sadly replied, “Mommy, I was mean too. Some of the kids were making fun of the ‘little kid’ on the team and I agreed with them that he was small. I didn’t like the way it felt inside but I wanted them to like me. Mom, I was part of the problem!

I smiled a bit and wiped his cheeks and said, “Yes hunnie you were part of the problem, but right now you are turning it around to become part of the solution.”

Many children (and adults-who are we kidding) never take the time to be mindful–present in the moment–and think about their thoughts, actions and feelings and my 8 year old was doing that on his own!

We then read my children’s book for the upteen-millionth time, The Light Inside of Me and hugged tightly at the end.

be the light - person

We all have a light deep within us that shines brightly when we come from a place of love and are living our truth and dims when we allow fear to take the helm. In short, when we feel good, we shine and when we feel bad, we are dim or we dim the lights of others.

The next time you see a dim light, be present in the moment. Be totally mindful of what you are thinking and feeling and then instead of reacting, respond with love.

I am so proud of my son this evening (and every other minute of his existence). Tonight and every night I feel honored to be his mom.

Lots of Love & Tons of Light,

Vicki

Let Go of the How and Focus on the Why

I was recently asked, “Why do you do what you do?”

First, let me tell you a little about me…

I am an elementary teacher who focuses on building the self esteem of children and therefore touching their hearts, long before I even attempt to teach their minds.  For many years, I have taught holistically and non-conventionally.  I teach in a public school from September to June and then run camps in the summer based on my research and experience to build self esteem in children and help them to speak their truth.

In the past decade, my work has expanded to adults as well.  I conduct workshops for adults, provide coaching services, speak at various events as an inspirational speaker, and of course, blog.  I’ve come to realize that how I’m getting from here to there, doesn’t really matter.  Instead, what matters most, is the why of it all.  My why is answered in the work that I do for children and adults because essentially, it’s all the same.  I educate, enlighten, and empower children and adults to be their absolute best!

I believe that our childhood is our foundation in life and that we can never say, “What happens in childhood stays in childhood.” In truth, what happens in childhood affects who we are to become in this life, whether we choose to believe that or not. Basically, I am building strong foundations for children in their childhood by giving them tools to navigate the waters of life successfully in the years to come.  I also help adults to repair and strengthen their foundations with these very same tools because I believe that it’s never too late to love that child within!

When we are working towards a goal, no matter what that goal may be, we have a tendency to focus on how we are going to attain that goal.  In my experience, when I focus on; how I am going to get that book deal, how I’m going to leave my full-time job to do the work I truly love full-time or how to get from here to there, I become very stuck!  On the flip side, when I focus why I do what I do, everything just comes to me in perfect timing, as it should.

I do what I do, because…

Childhood is simply too precious to ignore.

I do what I do, because…

We all need tools to navigate the waters of life successfully.

I do what I do, because…

                              Everyone deserves the very best in this life!

What’s your why?

Lots of Love & Tons of Light,

Vicki

In Search of God

Several years ago I was on a quest,

a quest to find God.

I went from church to church looking for the right place for me.  What I was discovering was that some things felt really good and others, not so much.  Since I always go by what feels right, and nothing felt totally right, I continued my search.

As a young child, I remember going to church every Sunday with my parents and sitting there with my Barbie dolls or some other toy to keep me occupied during the service.  Once in a while I would hear something that startled me (or put fear into me) and I would whisper my fears to my dad.  My mom would shoot a harsh look at me to be quiet, but my dad would wrap his arms around me and say,

God loves you.”

As I got older, I began to go to Religious Education to prepare for Communion, and then Confirmation.  I have never been a trouble maker, but I’ve always been passionate about what I believe to be true.  I was thrown out of religious education class a few times because I questioned the teachings, but I honestly was not being a smartass. I was really curious and simply seeking the Truth.

I vaguely remember a story in the Bible of the Lord being pleased by the smell of an animal that was sacrificed for him…I stood up and firmly said, “That’s not MY God.”  The very next class, they showed us a fictional movie of what God was ‘suppose’ to be.  It was strange and I couldn’t hold back, so I said, “That’s NOT God!  God is in every one of us.  God is the brightest light you can ever imagine.  In fact, God is so bright, that you can’t even imagine the brightness.  God is the wind, the rain, the energy all around us.  God is not outside of us, nor is God male or female!”  With that, the priest was instructed to ‘have a talk with me.’

I somehow got through all of the requirements and was deemed Catholic, but I still didn’t feel I had my answers.  Time went by and I grew into a young woman who ventured out into the world still seeking the Truth.  I went to Shamans, Psychics and every kind of religious organization you could think of…then I took a break.  I just stopped going to all of these different places and I started to look within.

One Saturday afternoon, I drove by a church that said, ‘UNITY’ in front of the building.  I was compelled to walk inside and so I did.  No-one was there.  It was just an empty, open building.  I walked down a narrow hallway looking at all of the beautiful pictures on the wall.  Then I came to one that caught my attention immediately…

It was a picture with a beautiful golden frame that was oddly covered with a white cloth.  The white cloth was tacked with two clear tacks above the top of the frame.  Under the golden frame was an engraved tag that said, “The Christ.” I felt a chill run up my spine and that good ol’ Catholic guilt came flooding in.  I was frightened to lift the cloth, as I couldn’t imagine what could be so bad that this picture labeled, ‘The Christ’ would be COVERED!

I stepped back for a moment to ponder this whole situation and them something took over me and I lifted the cloth.

Under the cloth, in this beautiful golden frame, was a mirror!

At first glance, I noticed my facial features and was puzzled by the label and the mirror.  I then looked deeper at my own image and felt glued to this reflection starring back at me. I blinked my eyes and looked again, deeply into my own eyes and remembered the label under the picture.  I felt sun streaming through the window at the end of the hall upon my face and tears well up in my eyes.  I suddenly got it…

God is not outside of you.

God is within you!

In that one moment, I discontinued my search for the right church or religious following.  I had found my Truth.  The truth within that we all have and we all know, but we sometimes forget.  The truth is, God is within us, always available to us, and constantly there for us to reach our highest good.

The next time you look into that mirror, look a little deeper and see the Christ within.  Understand that God loves you, and therefore, you need to Love You!

From the Light in me, to the Light in you,

Vicki

Don’t Let Anyone Take YOUR Power Away

A few days ago I read a children’s book titled, ‘Fireflies,‘ by Julie Brinkloe, to a group of girls for my GIRLS RULE Camp.  This book is a story of a child who feels the excitement of catching fireflies in mid-summer in a glass jar.  I love this story because when I was little that very event created many happy memories that I cherish, with my dad.

In this story, the child is called to come inside and brings the fireflies in his room, thinking the fireflies would be okay because he poked holes in the top of the jar.  When he first sets the jar down, he admires the bright glowing lights of the fireflies, and he says, “My Fireflies.”  In a few moments, he notices that the light in the jar is getting dimmer and dimmer.  He starts to realize that for the lights to brighten, he must let them go, but he doesn’t want to let go of his fireflies.

When the light gets very dim, with tears rolling down his cheeks, he opens the jar and points the jar toward the window.  He says, “Fly!”  Suddenly, the lights brighten and the fireflies explode out into the summer night air!

I’ve always loved this book because it reminds me of my dad, who is no longer here with me on earth, but last week it took on a new meaning…

Sometimes, we allow other people or situations to dim our light.  We allow ourselves to conform to what others want or what appears to be acceptable in society.  The problem is, we are not being TRUE to ourselves.  We slowly become dimmer and dimmer, and something inside of us dies.  Perhaps it’s passion, imagination, desire, or inspiration.  Nonetheless, it dies.

We can free ourselves by being true to ourselves and honoring our feelings.  Most importantly, we can empower ourselves and brighten our own light by never giving our power away.  We give our power away when we seek approval from others and when we hold back our truth because we are afraid of not fitting in…not fitting in with others, or perhaps with what society deems ‘right’.

If you’ve given your power away to another person, a co-worker, a boss or even a job, take it back! Take your power back by doing what feels right.  Stop hoping that others are going to change and that you will wake up from this horrible dream.  Take your power back and make your dreams become your reality, whatever dreams you may have.

You deserve it.  You are AMAZING.  You are a BRIGHT LIGHT just waiting to bust out and FLY!  Go for it…the jar is open.

Lots of Love & TONS OF LIGHT!

Vicki