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The ‘Sweet’ Life

In the past few months I’ve been getting hit hard with life lessons from the Universe. Sometimes it feels like a 2 x 4 over my head. Ever feel like that?

Something deep inside of me kept saying, ‘pay attention to your thoughts because your thoughts create your beliefs which in turn create your life!’

Essentially, this IS the Law of Attraction.

I’ve always believed in the Law of Attraction but wasn’t quite sure how it worked.

I mean sure, think positive thoughts and you feel better, right?

The question becomes…is it really that easy?

The answer is no!

It’s not that easy and it’s not how the Law of Attraction works.

You see, you can’t just put a thought out there that you don’t believe and think it’s going to manifest. Instead, you have to feel it to believe it to ultimately manifest it.

How do you do that you might say?  How do you feel what you’d like to manifest before you actually manifest it?

Well, you start by raising your vibration.

Many people look at me and think, ‘she’s a life coach and she published an empowerment book with Hay House so her life must be perfect.’

That’s laughable.

Truth is, I too am still on a journey of life and just because I teach empowerment does NOT mean I’ve reached Nirvana.

I mean seriously? If I already got to where I was going, what more would I have to learn and therefore teach?

Last week the Universe lined up the stars and put an online class right in front of me…

Natalie Ledwell’s Ultimate Success Masterclass.

And wouldn’t you know, what she teaches is none other than-

The Law of Attraction!

I signed up immediately to give myself a tune up and the first module reminded me of the importance of a positive daily practice.  You see, our minds are generally set up to focus on the negatives in life. We tend to zero in on what we don’t have instead of what we truly want, need and desire. We are coming from a place of lack and so we continue to create more lack.

Natalie suggested raising your vibration with a positive consistent daily practice. Some suggestions were; meditation, affirmations, volunteering, journaling etc.-all of which I have suggested to my clients in the past and that I do myself- but the one I’d like to share with you today is ‘random acts of kindness…’

A few months ago I moved into a new home with my son. I purchased a brand new bed in honor of a new start in my new life. The mattress was great the first few weeks and then hello chiropractor!

I finally went back to the mattress store and said we need to make an exchange. I worked with a very nice gentleman who was obviously overworked and under appreciated. Every time my son and I would go to this store, this poor guy was doing the work of three people.

I tried what felt like a million beds and then narrowed it down to two. We decided that I would return in a few days after going back to the chiropractor to get aligned.

I called the night I was to return and was told that Chris (my salesman) had a family emergency and wouldn’t be back until Saturday.

My son and I went back on Saturday to make the final choice and when I saw him the first thing I asked was, “How are you? I heard you had a family emergency. I hope all is well.”

After a few moments we began to talk and he shared that his wife has cancer and he had to take a few days off to care for her.

I no longer looked at him as a ‘salesman’ but instead as a human being who was going through life just like you and I.

As we sat to schedule the delivery my son and Chris got to talking about candy because Halloween is on the horizon. They both agreed that Kit Kats were by far the candy to dig for in the bag.

After we made the purchase and scheduled delivery my son and I ran some other errands. Together we decided to put together a Kit Kat Halloween pumpkin for Chris to thank him for his patience and diligence in this process of finding the princess her mattress with no pea!

My son ran in to deliver the plastic pumpkin filled with Kit Kats and a thank you card.

I was of course checking email in the car when Chris came out with tears in his eyes to say thank you.

At that very moment I felt my vibration soar.

We can walk around in a dark cloud our whole lives. We can focus on the negative in our life’s, worry about the future, feel like we’re not enough but that’s not going to bring us happiness.

If we truly want a ‘sweet life’ we need to change our thoughts and the only way to do that is to first begin to raise our vibration.

That means, do what makes your heart smile.

For some that’s communing with nature, playing or listening to music, praying, drawing, painting or writing. For others-like myself-it’s doing something kind for someone else.

Chris is a regular guy like you and I and I bet that there haven’t been too many times when someone noticed his effort and said thank you. That small, random act of kindness not only raised his vibration but also my own and my sons!

In this crazy world that we live in today with all of our crazy negative thoughts, perhaps we could take a few moments every day to just simply raise our vibrations.

If we all did that only a few times a day I wonder what we’d begin attracting to us.

I’m not a gambling kinda girl, but I’m willing to bet that life would get whole lot sweeter!

Go ahead, take a bite out of the sweet life and raise your vibration, I dare you!

Lots of Love & Tons of Light,

Vicki

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Raising the AHA Generation: Is that a good thing?

ProblemSolvingWhen you hear Aha, you may think it is a good thing because ‘Aha’ usually means that you are becoming aware of something, but when you hear what AHA stands in this article, I’m not so sure it’s a good thing…

As a school teacher of 15 years I have seen many changes throughout the years. I have seen many changes in education, expectations, learning styles and overall behavior of our children. In the past few weeks I have become critically aware of three important elements that I see clear across the board with our current generation; (I could write another book on this but I will keep it short and sweet for now)

  • Today’s children are generally anxious. Kids always want to know what is coming next and why they are doing what they are doing. They worry about the simple things in life yet do not pay attention to the details that can help them to feel secure. They have more fears today then we had in our childhood and they look for others to solve their problems because they are afraid that they don’t have the tools to do so on their own.
  • Kids of today are learning to be helpless. Their minds are in three different places at once because they struggle to focus on one thing at a time. Perhaps this is because they are so anxious that they are not in the moment. Maybe they are too focused on the past and too fearful of the future to stay in the present moment, or perhaps they have just learned that they don’t have to do things for themselves because the adults will do it to get it done on their
  • Today’s children are angry. There are many times in a day when I am putting fires out because someone has been ‘rubbed the wrong way’ or is upset because they didn’t get their way. They easily bark at one another instead of talking things out and listening to the ideas of others. Our children of today go from joyful to angry in a matter of minutes and then back to joyful when they get their way once again. It’s truly remarkable how they’ve learned to use anger as a bargaining chip.

So there you have it, the AHA generation in a nutshell. Now, where did this come from?

In my opinion, our kids are learning from us! Think about your average day and the amount of stress you are under. We run from one activity to another. We speak so quickly that we often wonder if we are making sense and we never make time to just BE. We have become Human Doings instead of Human Beings because we are trying to do way too much in our lives. Doesn’t that make you feel anxious?

And think about it… if you are anxious…if your child’s teachers are anxious…if the world spins this quickly daily and everybody is running in different directions…aren’t we all creating an anxious environment for our children to grow in? How could they not develop deep anxiety in life?

We put pressure on our children from the moment they enter school with testing (if not sooner based upon our own expectations). We constantly rush them from one activity to another because, well, hey that’s just what we do today. We never take time to sit and quiet our minds or teach our children to quiet their minds yet we expect them to relax and just be kids. Hmmmm, how are they to do that when even they are under so much pressure?

Let’s talk about learned helplessness– I don’t believe that we have done this on purpose, but it seems that we are always making excuses for our children’s behaviors or seeking a label to explain those behaviors instead of addressing the issues and teaching them how to problem solve. Our kids are over stimulated with electronics and under stimulated with human connection! We often ask our children to do something and then when we realize it hasn’t been done we do it ourselves because we are in a hurry and it’s just quicker that way. But, what are we creating with this behavior?

How about those angry kids? We are so hell bent on making sure that our children don’t experience what we experienced and we are so concerned with ‘fairness’ that we have forgotten that sometimes life isn’t fair and we all need to learn how to roll with the punches and go with the flow because sometimes things just don’t work out the way you intend.

Now, if you know anything about me, you know that I don’t like to complain about something without having a solution. So, what can we do?

We need to teach our kids how to be Problem Solvers.

We need to stop taking their power away by answering for them or doing it for them and start empowering them to believe in themselves and speak their truth. The world isn’t always fair but our present circumstances do not have to determine our future and learning to overcome obstacles in life can only build strong character. Give your kids their power back and stop solving their problems for them. Instead, give them the tools that they need to be successful in life.

  • When they come to you to ask you if their picture/work is good don’t give them an answer. Instead, get down on their level and say, “What do YOU think about your picture?” Allow them to talk about their work and share their pride. This will teach them that their opinion matters and they don’t have to seek approval outside of themselves.

 

  • When they feel disappointed or upset about something, don’t offer them the solution or try to make it better (and believe me I know this is hard). Instead, sit with them and allow them to feel their feelings without judgment, then ask them what they think they can do about the problem. Guide them to problem solve without giving them a direct solution. This will help them to feel empowered because they had a part in the solution. And as difficult as it is-because we all just want to make it better- it’s worth it in the long run because you are giving them tools for a lifetime. What is that old saying… “Give them a fish and they eat today but teach them to fish and they eat for an eternity!” (or something like that)

 

I don’t want our kids to be anxious, helpless and angry. Instead, I would like to create a strong foundation for them so that they can grow up to have a healthy, productive, joyful life. Are you with me?

Lots of Love & Tons of Light,

Vicki

PS Please leave me your comments. I read them all and love hearing your thoughts!

www.vickisavini.com

Maybe We Could All Be a Little More Mindful

 

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I pride myself on being mindful-focused on the present moment. I wrote about the importance of this in my recent Hay House release, Ignite the Light: Empowering Children & Adults to be Their Absolute Best and I have come be to known as ‘the Mindful Teacher,’ yet yesterday I had a revelation…

For the past few weeks I have found myself discussing the topic of mindfulness on radio shows, in my classroom and in my own home. My husband is in real estate and he’s a high energy kind of guy. He has a difficult time slowing down and staying in the present moment so I guess I’ve been ‘preaching’ to him a bit of late because I have been talking to him about being more mindful.

Last night we took our son out to dinner and then headed to the mall for some quick shopping. I had my phone in hand and checked the text messages, Facebook and emails a few times but thought nothing of it. We enjoyed our evening together and then headed up the Northway to go home.

It was at this point that a song came on the radio from years past (N-Sync-Bye Bye). My husband and I smiled as he began singing to the top of his lungs (all the wrong words-of course). Then, I found myself looking down at my phone again.

I don’t know why but I thought back to ‘the old days’ when we didn’t have smart phones and computers on the run. As my husband sang to his hearts content, I had a revelation- I was NOT being mindful. Why is it that we constantly allow ourselves to be pulled away from the present moment?

I distinctly remember a few months ago while traveling through an airport that I noticed a family of four sitting at a table and every person in that family was engaged on an electronic device. I felt sad for the kids because there was no conversation and a true disconnect.

I then looked around the airport and noticed the iPads connected at every table. There were very few people in that airport actually interacting with one another face to face. Instead, they were all engaged in electronics. It truly made me sad but I felt somewhat proud of myself that I was being mindful and talking with my traveling companion.

Yet, here I was last night, as my husband reminisced our youth, checking my damn phone.

I aptly placed the phone in my purse and didn’t pull it out again.

Let’s be honest. We live in a fast paced, busy, technical society and electronics come in handy, but we are certainly allowing social media to over take our lives and we are all suffering from this because we are causing disconnection in our families, with our friends and from our higher self.

Take the time to notice today how much you check your phone, go on Facebook or rummage through emails. Then ask yourself, ‘Do I really need to do this right now?’

“Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.” ~Hilary Cooper 

Truth is…if we are not mindful, then we are missing the moments.

Don’t miss another ‘moment’.

Lots of Love & tons of Light,

Vicki

It’s Official-Get Ready to Ignite the Light!

Ready to Ignite the Light?

Hi everyone!

I can’t believe how fast time flies but my new book is being released in exactly ONE week!!! (But you can PRE-ORDER TODAY)

IGNITE THE LIGHT: EMPOWERING CHILDREN & ADULTS TO BE THEIR ABSOLUTE BEST

Whether you are a parent, a teacher, a child-care worker, or just a person who would like to leave this world a little more peaceful than you found it, Ignite the Light – Empowering Children and Adults to Be Their Absolute Best, will give you the tools to educate, enlighten, and empower the children in your life to see that they are perfect just as they are.  What happens in childhood doesn’t stay in childhood, which is why childhood is too precious to ignore.  This book is a practical step-by-step manual for change and message of hope that provides tools from which all children—and all families—will benefit.

Check out the book trailer that was filmed and produced by an 11 year old who shines brighter than the SUN-(how cool is that?)

CLICK HERE FOR BOOK TRAILER

I am on a mission to help children and families be their absolute best by igniting the light within.

In this book, I take the 7 Essentials that I have taught for years to both children and adults and give you a step by step manual to apply to your life and empower the children you serve (whether you are a parent or teacher, you know exactly what I mean by that).

There’s nothing cerebral about it. I keep it simple because I want you to pick up this book, devour the message and apply simple principles immediately so that you can not only be your best self, but more important–ignite the light within our kids!

Top 5 Reasons to Order Ignite the Light today:

1) You will learn 7 simple essentials that can chance your life by helping you to create strong foundations for children and repair and strengthen your own foundation.
2) Your kids deserve a strong foundation that will help them to navigate the waters of life by connecting with their inner power.
3) You deserve a chance to get off the hamster wheel and start living instead of existing.
4) There are tons of tools to help kids believe in themselves and speak their truth, and when this happens our kids excel at school, laugh at bullies and shine brighter than the sun!
5) When we believe in ourselves and speak our truth, we not only create a brighter future for our kids but we live a happier life!

How about some gifts?

Because you have followed my work and are on my super important email list, I want to give you a few free gifts for ordering my book;

1) an automatic download of a typical meditation in my classroom. This is approximately 12 minutes long and can be used with both children and adults, even if you think you have a hard time meditating! I have 1st graders who use this method and believe me it works. Let me teach you how to go to YOUR ‘Happy Place.’

2) I will include you in a free 90 minute group coaching call based on the 7 essentials in the book(Date in June to be announced.)

How do you get the free gifts?

Simply purchase the book from amazon (click the link below), then send your receipt to zohee@vickisavini.com with “I’m Ready to Ignite the Light” in the subject line and you will receive an email with your immediate download and more information on the coaching call.

Lots of Love & Tons of Light,
Vicki

Honoring the Light Within with Mindfulness

Wow, I just had an amazing conversation with my 8 year and I’m truly honored to be his mom.

This evening he came home from baseball practice and seemed a bit emotional. He said he got hit by a ball, but I knew in my heart it was more than that.

When we laid down to talk before bed I went with my gut (as I always tell parents to do because we know what’s going on with our kids more than we’d like to admit).

This is my sons first year in little league and it can be somewhat intimidating to try something new when others have been at it for a while. I turned to him and began to say those very words. As I talked he began to cry.

I stopped talking and opened my ears to listen to him intently. Sure, he may have been feeling a bit unnerved by this ‘new’ sport but it was more than that. What was bothering him most was that other kids were being mean to the ‘little kid’ on the team…

He started off by telling me that some kids were telling him what he was doing wrong and it hurt his feelings. It was then that I reminded him that if we are not part of the solution, we are part of the problem. He asked, “How am I part of the problem mom. They were putting me down?” I answered, “Yes, hunnie, that’s true, but you allowed it to affect you. You are part of the solution when you stand up for yourself and help others to stop and think about their own actions. You might have done that by saying, ‘thanks for the tip but I’m going to listen to the coach,’ ‘last I checked you weren’t a coach,’ or ‘wow, when did the Yankees draft you?” He liked that last one.

I thought we were through the woods but then he got really upset and began to sob uncontrollably. I reached out to him and asked what was wrong. He sadly replied, “Mommy, I was mean too. Some of the kids were making fun of the ‘little kid’ on the team and I agreed with them that he was small. I didn’t like the way it felt inside but I wanted them to like me. Mom, I was part of the problem!

I smiled a bit and wiped his cheeks and said, “Yes hunnie you were part of the problem, but right now you are turning it around to become part of the solution.”

Many children (and adults-who are we kidding) never take the time to be mindful–present in the moment–and think about their thoughts, actions and feelings and my 8 year old was doing that on his own!

We then read my children’s book for the upteen-millionth time, The Light Inside of Me and hugged tightly at the end.

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We all have a light deep within us that shines brightly when we come from a place of love and are living our truth and dims when we allow fear to take the helm. In short, when we feel good, we shine and when we feel bad, we are dim or we dim the lights of others.

The next time you see a dim light, be present in the moment. Be totally mindful of what you are thinking and feeling and then instead of reacting, respond with love.

I am so proud of my son this evening (and every other minute of his existence). Tonight and every night I feel honored to be his mom.

Lots of Love & Tons of Light,

Vicki

Empowering Praise

Have you ever stopped to think about how your childhood affects you?  Childhood is the ground level in this life.  It is our foundation.  We simply cannot say, ‘What happens in childhood stays in childhood,’ because the truth of the matter is, it doesn’t stay anywhere.  Our childhood is our base for this life that we lead, and without a strong foundation, we struggle to navigate the waters of life.  The good news is… it’s never too late to create a strong foundation for your children or yourself!

I am the youngest of four girls and there are 11, 14 and 15 years from me to my big sister’s, so as a child I got a great deal of attention.  I was a dancer, a singer, an artist, and yes, a writer, even at a young age.  I won art contests, had amazing opportunities in dance, was recognized as a soloist at state competitions, and was honored for my writing.  I was usually praised for what I was doing according to what others thought…

“You’re a good artist Vicki,”

“That was a great song,”

“Good job on your dance.”

I worked hard to be the best, but I wasn’t always the best.  When I wasn’t the best, of course I felt less than.

My parents were loving, hard working people, who taught us to be kind, generous, and always help those in need.  They were truly amazing and always tried to do their very best with their children, as we all do in our own way. They never intended to pass on this feeling of unworthiness to me.  They were truly oblivious to this core belief being born within me at a young age.

No-one set out to give me this core belief as a child, yet the message was clear, “Be the best, or it’s just not good enough.”

We don’t even realize what we do to our kids because we are dealing with our own core beliefs as we parent our children.

I’ve worked with children for over 20 years in my life and I have an amazing tool for you today…

When your child tries their hardest, overcomes a fear, tries something new, or even wins an art contest, before you tell them what you think, take the time to ask them what they think.  I often praise my son for doing and being, but I am constantly reminding myself of this lesson and asking him to tell me how he feels so that he will know how amazing he is whether he is 1st, 2nd, 3rd or 5,983rd!

Empowering praise is praise that we give to our children and ourselves, where we take a step back and say, “Wow! You did your personal best, and good for you!” Empowering praise is praise we give to our children and ourselves even when we feel like we’ve failed.  We take a deep breath and say, “That was my best at that time, I will prevail.”

Give your children a gift and give yourself a gift…

See the Light within no matter what the outcome is on your next endeavor!

Lots of Love & tons of Light,

Vicki

Let Go of the How and Focus on the Why

I was recently asked, “Why do you do what you do?”

First, let me tell you a little about me…

I am an elementary teacher who focuses on building the self esteem of children and therefore touching their hearts, long before I even attempt to teach their minds.  For many years, I have taught holistically and non-conventionally.  I teach in a public school from September to June and then run camps in the summer based on my research and experience to build self esteem in children and help them to speak their truth.

In the past decade, my work has expanded to adults as well.  I conduct workshops for adults, provide coaching services, speak at various events as an inspirational speaker, and of course, blog.  I’ve come to realize that how I’m getting from here to there, doesn’t really matter.  Instead, what matters most, is the why of it all.  My why is answered in the work that I do for children and adults because essentially, it’s all the same.  I educate, enlighten, and empower children and adults to be their absolute best!

I believe that our childhood is our foundation in life and that we can never say, “What happens in childhood stays in childhood.” In truth, what happens in childhood affects who we are to become in this life, whether we choose to believe that or not. Basically, I am building strong foundations for children in their childhood by giving them tools to navigate the waters of life successfully in the years to come.  I also help adults to repair and strengthen their foundations with these very same tools because I believe that it’s never too late to love that child within!

When we are working towards a goal, no matter what that goal may be, we have a tendency to focus on how we are going to attain that goal.  In my experience, when I focus on; how I am going to get that book deal, how I’m going to leave my full-time job to do the work I truly love full-time or how to get from here to there, I become very stuck!  On the flip side, when I focus why I do what I do, everything just comes to me in perfect timing, as it should.

I do what I do, because…

Childhood is simply too precious to ignore.

I do what I do, because…

We all need tools to navigate the waters of life successfully.

I do what I do, because…

                              Everyone deserves the very best in this life!

What’s your why?

Lots of Love & Tons of Light,

Vicki