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The ‘Sweet’ Life

In the past few months I’ve been getting hit hard with life lessons from the Universe. Sometimes it feels like a 2 x 4 over my head. Ever feel like that?

Something deep inside of me kept saying, ‘pay attention to your thoughts because your thoughts create your beliefs which in turn create your life!’

Essentially, this IS the Law of Attraction.

I’ve always believed in the Law of Attraction but wasn’t quite sure how it worked.

I mean sure, think positive thoughts and you feel better, right?

The question becomes…is it really that easy?

The answer is no!

It’s not that easy and it’s not how the Law of Attraction works.

You see, you can’t just put a thought out there that you don’t believe and think it’s going to manifest. Instead, you have to feel it to believe it to ultimately manifest it.

How do you do that you might say?  How do you feel what you’d like to manifest before you actually manifest it?

Well, you start by raising your vibration.

Many people look at me and think, ‘she’s a life coach and she published an empowerment book with Hay House so her life must be perfect.’

That’s laughable.

Truth is, I too am still on a journey of life and just because I teach empowerment does NOT mean I’ve reached Nirvana.

I mean seriously? If I already got to where I was going, what more would I have to learn and therefore teach?

Last week the Universe lined up the stars and put an online class right in front of me…

Natalie Ledwell’s Ultimate Success Masterclass.

And wouldn’t you know, what she teaches is none other than-

The Law of Attraction!

I signed up immediately to give myself a tune up and the first module reminded me of the importance of a positive daily practice.  You see, our minds are generally set up to focus on the negatives in life. We tend to zero in on what we don’t have instead of what we truly want, need and desire. We are coming from a place of lack and so we continue to create more lack.

Natalie suggested raising your vibration with a positive consistent daily practice. Some suggestions were; meditation, affirmations, volunteering, journaling etc.-all of which I have suggested to my clients in the past and that I do myself- but the one I’d like to share with you today is ‘random acts of kindness…’

A few months ago I moved into a new home with my son. I purchased a brand new bed in honor of a new start in my new life. The mattress was great the first few weeks and then hello chiropractor!

I finally went back to the mattress store and said we need to make an exchange. I worked with a very nice gentleman who was obviously overworked and under appreciated. Every time my son and I would go to this store, this poor guy was doing the work of three people.

I tried what felt like a million beds and then narrowed it down to two. We decided that I would return in a few days after going back to the chiropractor to get aligned.

I called the night I was to return and was told that Chris (my salesman) had a family emergency and wouldn’t be back until Saturday.

My son and I went back on Saturday to make the final choice and when I saw him the first thing I asked was, “How are you? I heard you had a family emergency. I hope all is well.”

After a few moments we began to talk and he shared that his wife has cancer and he had to take a few days off to care for her.

I no longer looked at him as a ‘salesman’ but instead as a human being who was going through life just like you and I.

As we sat to schedule the delivery my son and Chris got to talking about candy because Halloween is on the horizon. They both agreed that Kit Kats were by far the candy to dig for in the bag.

After we made the purchase and scheduled delivery my son and I ran some other errands. Together we decided to put together a Kit Kat Halloween pumpkin for Chris to thank him for his patience and diligence in this process of finding the princess her mattress with no pea!

My son ran in to deliver the plastic pumpkin filled with Kit Kats and a thank you card.

I was of course checking email in the car when Chris came out with tears in his eyes to say thank you.

At that very moment I felt my vibration soar.

We can walk around in a dark cloud our whole lives. We can focus on the negative in our life’s, worry about the future, feel like we’re not enough but that’s not going to bring us happiness.

If we truly want a ‘sweet life’ we need to change our thoughts and the only way to do that is to first begin to raise our vibration.

That means, do what makes your heart smile.

For some that’s communing with nature, playing or listening to music, praying, drawing, painting or writing. For others-like myself-it’s doing something kind for someone else.

Chris is a regular guy like you and I and I bet that there haven’t been too many times when someone noticed his effort and said thank you. That small, random act of kindness not only raised his vibration but also my own and my sons!

In this crazy world that we live in today with all of our crazy negative thoughts, perhaps we could take a few moments every day to just simply raise our vibrations.

If we all did that only a few times a day I wonder what we’d begin attracting to us.

I’m not a gambling kinda girl, but I’m willing to bet that life would get whole lot sweeter!

Go ahead, take a bite out of the sweet life and raise your vibration, I dare you!

Lots of Love & Tons of Light,

Vicki

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Maybe We Could All Be a Little More Mindful

 

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I pride myself on being mindful-focused on the present moment. I wrote about the importance of this in my recent Hay House release, Ignite the Light: Empowering Children & Adults to be Their Absolute Best and I have come be to known as ‘the Mindful Teacher,’ yet yesterday I had a revelation…

For the past few weeks I have found myself discussing the topic of mindfulness on radio shows, in my classroom and in my own home. My husband is in real estate and he’s a high energy kind of guy. He has a difficult time slowing down and staying in the present moment so I guess I’ve been ‘preaching’ to him a bit of late because I have been talking to him about being more mindful.

Last night we took our son out to dinner and then headed to the mall for some quick shopping. I had my phone in hand and checked the text messages, Facebook and emails a few times but thought nothing of it. We enjoyed our evening together and then headed up the Northway to go home.

It was at this point that a song came on the radio from years past (N-Sync-Bye Bye). My husband and I smiled as he began singing to the top of his lungs (all the wrong words-of course). Then, I found myself looking down at my phone again.

I don’t know why but I thought back to ‘the old days’ when we didn’t have smart phones and computers on the run. As my husband sang to his hearts content, I had a revelation- I was NOT being mindful. Why is it that we constantly allow ourselves to be pulled away from the present moment?

I distinctly remember a few months ago while traveling through an airport that I noticed a family of four sitting at a table and every person in that family was engaged on an electronic device. I felt sad for the kids because there was no conversation and a true disconnect.

I then looked around the airport and noticed the iPads connected at every table. There were very few people in that airport actually interacting with one another face to face. Instead, they were all engaged in electronics. It truly made me sad but I felt somewhat proud of myself that I was being mindful and talking with my traveling companion.

Yet, here I was last night, as my husband reminisced our youth, checking my damn phone.

I aptly placed the phone in my purse and didn’t pull it out again.

Let’s be honest. We live in a fast paced, busy, technical society and electronics come in handy, but we are certainly allowing social media to over take our lives and we are all suffering from this because we are causing disconnection in our families, with our friends and from our higher self.

Take the time to notice today how much you check your phone, go on Facebook or rummage through emails. Then ask yourself, ‘Do I really need to do this right now?’

“Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.” ~Hilary Cooper 

Truth is…if we are not mindful, then we are missing the moments.

Don’t miss another ‘moment’.

Lots of Love & tons of Light,

Vicki

Empowering Praise

Have you ever stopped to think about how your childhood affects you?  Childhood is the ground level in this life.  It is our foundation.  We simply cannot say, ‘What happens in childhood stays in childhood,’ because the truth of the matter is, it doesn’t stay anywhere.  Our childhood is our base for this life that we lead, and without a strong foundation, we struggle to navigate the waters of life.  The good news is… it’s never too late to create a strong foundation for your children or yourself!

I am the youngest of four girls and there are 11, 14 and 15 years from me to my big sister’s, so as a child I got a great deal of attention.  I was a dancer, a singer, an artist, and yes, a writer, even at a young age.  I won art contests, had amazing opportunities in dance, was recognized as a soloist at state competitions, and was honored for my writing.  I was usually praised for what I was doing according to what others thought…

“You’re a good artist Vicki,”

“That was a great song,”

“Good job on your dance.”

I worked hard to be the best, but I wasn’t always the best.  When I wasn’t the best, of course I felt less than.

My parents were loving, hard working people, who taught us to be kind, generous, and always help those in need.  They were truly amazing and always tried to do their very best with their children, as we all do in our own way. They never intended to pass on this feeling of unworthiness to me.  They were truly oblivious to this core belief being born within me at a young age.

No-one set out to give me this core belief as a child, yet the message was clear, “Be the best, or it’s just not good enough.”

We don’t even realize what we do to our kids because we are dealing with our own core beliefs as we parent our children.

I’ve worked with children for over 20 years in my life and I have an amazing tool for you today…

When your child tries their hardest, overcomes a fear, tries something new, or even wins an art contest, before you tell them what you think, take the time to ask them what they think.  I often praise my son for doing and being, but I am constantly reminding myself of this lesson and asking him to tell me how he feels so that he will know how amazing he is whether he is 1st, 2nd, 3rd or 5,983rd!

Empowering praise is praise that we give to our children and ourselves, where we take a step back and say, “Wow! You did your personal best, and good for you!” Empowering praise is praise we give to our children and ourselves even when we feel like we’ve failed.  We take a deep breath and say, “That was my best at that time, I will prevail.”

Give your children a gift and give yourself a gift…

See the Light within no matter what the outcome is on your next endeavor!

Lots of Love & tons of Light,

Vicki

Let Go of the How and Focus on the Why

I was recently asked, “Why do you do what you do?”

First, let me tell you a little about me…

I am an elementary teacher who focuses on building the self esteem of children and therefore touching their hearts, long before I even attempt to teach their minds.  For many years, I have taught holistically and non-conventionally.  I teach in a public school from September to June and then run camps in the summer based on my research and experience to build self esteem in children and help them to speak their truth.

In the past decade, my work has expanded to adults as well.  I conduct workshops for adults, provide coaching services, speak at various events as an inspirational speaker, and of course, blog.  I’ve come to realize that how I’m getting from here to there, doesn’t really matter.  Instead, what matters most, is the why of it all.  My why is answered in the work that I do for children and adults because essentially, it’s all the same.  I educate, enlighten, and empower children and adults to be their absolute best!

I believe that our childhood is our foundation in life and that we can never say, “What happens in childhood stays in childhood.” In truth, what happens in childhood affects who we are to become in this life, whether we choose to believe that or not. Basically, I am building strong foundations for children in their childhood by giving them tools to navigate the waters of life successfully in the years to come.  I also help adults to repair and strengthen their foundations with these very same tools because I believe that it’s never too late to love that child within!

When we are working towards a goal, no matter what that goal may be, we have a tendency to focus on how we are going to attain that goal.  In my experience, when I focus on; how I am going to get that book deal, how I’m going to leave my full-time job to do the work I truly love full-time or how to get from here to there, I become very stuck!  On the flip side, when I focus why I do what I do, everything just comes to me in perfect timing, as it should.

I do what I do, because…

Childhood is simply too precious to ignore.

I do what I do, because…

We all need tools to navigate the waters of life successfully.

I do what I do, because…

                              Everyone deserves the very best in this life!

What’s your why?

Lots of Love & Tons of Light,

Vicki

In Search of God

Several years ago I was on a quest,

a quest to find God.

I went from church to church looking for the right place for me.  What I was discovering was that some things felt really good and others, not so much.  Since I always go by what feels right, and nothing felt totally right, I continued my search.

As a young child, I remember going to church every Sunday with my parents and sitting there with my Barbie dolls or some other toy to keep me occupied during the service.  Once in a while I would hear something that startled me (or put fear into me) and I would whisper my fears to my dad.  My mom would shoot a harsh look at me to be quiet, but my dad would wrap his arms around me and say,

God loves you.”

As I got older, I began to go to Religious Education to prepare for Communion, and then Confirmation.  I have never been a trouble maker, but I’ve always been passionate about what I believe to be true.  I was thrown out of religious education class a few times because I questioned the teachings, but I honestly was not being a smartass. I was really curious and simply seeking the Truth.

I vaguely remember a story in the Bible of the Lord being pleased by the smell of an animal that was sacrificed for him…I stood up and firmly said, “That’s not MY God.”  The very next class, they showed us a fictional movie of what God was ‘suppose’ to be.  It was strange and I couldn’t hold back, so I said, “That’s NOT God!  God is in every one of us.  God is the brightest light you can ever imagine.  In fact, God is so bright, that you can’t even imagine the brightness.  God is the wind, the rain, the energy all around us.  God is not outside of us, nor is God male or female!”  With that, the priest was instructed to ‘have a talk with me.’

I somehow got through all of the requirements and was deemed Catholic, but I still didn’t feel I had my answers.  Time went by and I grew into a young woman who ventured out into the world still seeking the Truth.  I went to Shamans, Psychics and every kind of religious organization you could think of…then I took a break.  I just stopped going to all of these different places and I started to look within.

One Saturday afternoon, I drove by a church that said, ‘UNITY’ in front of the building.  I was compelled to walk inside and so I did.  No-one was there.  It was just an empty, open building.  I walked down a narrow hallway looking at all of the beautiful pictures on the wall.  Then I came to one that caught my attention immediately…

It was a picture with a beautiful golden frame that was oddly covered with a white cloth.  The white cloth was tacked with two clear tacks above the top of the frame.  Under the golden frame was an engraved tag that said, “The Christ.” I felt a chill run up my spine and that good ol’ Catholic guilt came flooding in.  I was frightened to lift the cloth, as I couldn’t imagine what could be so bad that this picture labeled, ‘The Christ’ would be COVERED!

I stepped back for a moment to ponder this whole situation and them something took over me and I lifted the cloth.

Under the cloth, in this beautiful golden frame, was a mirror!

At first glance, I noticed my facial features and was puzzled by the label and the mirror.  I then looked deeper at my own image and felt glued to this reflection starring back at me. I blinked my eyes and looked again, deeply into my own eyes and remembered the label under the picture.  I felt sun streaming through the window at the end of the hall upon my face and tears well up in my eyes.  I suddenly got it…

God is not outside of you.

God is within you!

In that one moment, I discontinued my search for the right church or religious following.  I had found my Truth.  The truth within that we all have and we all know, but we sometimes forget.  The truth is, God is within us, always available to us, and constantly there for us to reach our highest good.

The next time you look into that mirror, look a little deeper and see the Christ within.  Understand that God loves you, and therefore, you need to Love You!

From the Light in me, to the Light in you,

Vicki

Don’t Let Anyone Take YOUR Power Away

A few days ago I read a children’s book titled, ‘Fireflies,‘ by Julie Brinkloe, to a group of girls for my GIRLS RULE Camp.  This book is a story of a child who feels the excitement of catching fireflies in mid-summer in a glass jar.  I love this story because when I was little that very event created many happy memories that I cherish, with my dad.

In this story, the child is called to come inside and brings the fireflies in his room, thinking the fireflies would be okay because he poked holes in the top of the jar.  When he first sets the jar down, he admires the bright glowing lights of the fireflies, and he says, “My Fireflies.”  In a few moments, he notices that the light in the jar is getting dimmer and dimmer.  He starts to realize that for the lights to brighten, he must let them go, but he doesn’t want to let go of his fireflies.

When the light gets very dim, with tears rolling down his cheeks, he opens the jar and points the jar toward the window.  He says, “Fly!”  Suddenly, the lights brighten and the fireflies explode out into the summer night air!

I’ve always loved this book because it reminds me of my dad, who is no longer here with me on earth, but last week it took on a new meaning…

Sometimes, we allow other people or situations to dim our light.  We allow ourselves to conform to what others want or what appears to be acceptable in society.  The problem is, we are not being TRUE to ourselves.  We slowly become dimmer and dimmer, and something inside of us dies.  Perhaps it’s passion, imagination, desire, or inspiration.  Nonetheless, it dies.

We can free ourselves by being true to ourselves and honoring our feelings.  Most importantly, we can empower ourselves and brighten our own light by never giving our power away.  We give our power away when we seek approval from others and when we hold back our truth because we are afraid of not fitting in…not fitting in with others, or perhaps with what society deems ‘right’.

If you’ve given your power away to another person, a co-worker, a boss or even a job, take it back! Take your power back by doing what feels right.  Stop hoping that others are going to change and that you will wake up from this horrible dream.  Take your power back and make your dreams become your reality, whatever dreams you may have.

You deserve it.  You are AMAZING.  You are a BRIGHT LIGHT just waiting to bust out and FLY!  Go for it…the jar is open.

Lots of Love & TONS OF LIGHT!

Vicki

‘The Greatest Love’

So, today, I feel totally, extremely blessed.  I feel that way, because for the first time in my life, on Valentine’s Day, nonetheless, I finally can say that I LOVE myself!

On September 11, 2011, I had one of the most ah-mazing experiences of my entire life.  Not only did I have the privilege of being called on stage in NYC at the Hay House Movers & Shakers Speak, Write, Promote Event to share my message, but more importantly, I felt that during my speech, everyone in the room was truly connected.  You see, in the middle of this 5-7 minute speech, I just broke out in song…that’s right, you heard me correctly, I broke out in song!

I started to sing, “I believe the children are our future.  Teach them well, and let them lead the way.  Show them all the beauty they possess inside.  Give them a sense of pride, to make it easier.  Let the children’s laughter, remind us how we used to be…

I’m sure you know that familiar song well…”The Greatest Love of All,” sang beautifully, none other than, by Whitney Houston in her prime.  I began singing this song because Spirit moved me to do so.  I was speaking of my purpose here on Earth…the preservation of childhood, and so it fit perfectly.

The most beautiful part of this whole experience was not that I was able to go on stage during this event and share my message with hundreds of people, including the beloved Louise Hay, amazing Cheryl Richardson, and truly inspiring publisher of Hay House, Reid Tracy…Instead, the most beautiful part of this whole experience was that when I began to sing that song, everyone, and I mean EVERYONE in the room joined in to sing it with me.  In that moment, we were all ONE, all connected at the very core of our being.  It was perfect, and beautiful, and truly Ah-mazing!

Today, on February 14, 2011, I feel very honored to have had that experience, and even more inspired to share my message with the world.  I believe that their are 7 Core Essentials to building strong foundations for our children, which ultimately lead to being the best possible version of yourself in adulthood.  The first of those is LOVING YOURSELF.

I know it sounds cliche’, but in truth it is the answer to all of the cracks in our very own foundation of life.  How about this Valentine’s day, you step out of your comfort zone of looking for love from others and you take the time to find your TRUE reflection.

You are absolutely beautiful.  You ARE Source energy.  You are AH-MAZING!  Take a deeper look in that MIRROR and see that you are all that you ever searched for…go ahead…Love yourself!

Here’s a tool to try this week to get started on this beautiful journey to the Greatest Love of AllLoving Yourself  (I will send another tip after you’ve practiced this for at least 1 week, so make sure you follow this blog so you won’t miss out)

Speak kindly to yourself.

1)   Start your day, every day, with a positive affirmation just for you.  As you lay in your cozy bed, (even just for the first 5 seconds of those waking moments) close your eyes, and think to yourself…I am motivated.  I am worthy.  I am beautiful.  I am ah-mazing!  It doesn’t really matter if you believe it at first…’fake it til ya make it!’

2)   After you stretch and get ready to start your day, before you hop into that shower, stop and look in the MIRROR, then say those same affirmations as you look deep into your very own eyes. (I know it can be hard to do your first time, but my 1st graders do mirror work, so trust me, you can too!)  It’s just you, Source energy and the mirror, and I promise IT will  move you!

3)   As your day rolls on and the voices build, breathe in and say those same affirmations again and again.  Shield yourself from the negative thoughts and immerse yourself in Love.  If you’ve ever loved someone or something, I mean really loved, then you know that the first thing you did was speak kindly.  Falling in Love with yourself means starting at square one…speak words of kindness, and only words of kindness.  If at some point, you find that words of self- doubt, despair, or the good ‘ol beating up of the self creep up on you, just breathe in again and repeat your kind words.  It’s just practice, but practice does make perfect…and the Truth is, you’re already perfect, you just might not know it yet!

Sending you lots of Love (and the courage to Love yourself),

Vicki


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